Dr. Newberger's Approach for Helping Couples is Goal-Oriented
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A Common Therapeutic Approach
Stephanie and Max went to a marriage counselor for help to heal their strained relationship. The couple was surprised to learn the philosophy and approach of this particular marriage and family therapist. Stephanie revealed, “We were looking for someone to work with us on a specific plan for our marriage. Instead, we got a totally neutral counselor who didn't seem to care whether or not our marriage survived. We weren't neutral about wanting to save our marriage, he was."
Clinical psychologist and author, Willard F. Harley, Jr., observed, "People who seek help from marriage counselors usually assume that the goal of therapy is saving the marriage. Unfortunately, most marital therapists are specifically trained to be non-directive or neutral. They see themselves as someone couples can talk to, but not someone who will coach them into changes that will ultimately save their marriage." Yet the
evidence suggests that if marriage counseling does not incorporate the goal of relationship improvement, the likelihood of a divorce increases substantially.
Lesson to be Learned: Those seeking third-party help to resolve marital conflict should learn the philosophy and role this person intends to play before committing to this individual's process. Does he or she have the tools, training, and orientation to give your marriage every chance to survive and thrive? If no goal of reconciliation exists at the beginning of the process, disappointment will more likely be experienced in the end. Such was the case for Stephanie and Max. They divorced.
Dr. Newberger's Approach
Dr. Newberger is a conflict resolution practitioner with a Ph.D. in Conflict Analysis and Resolution and the architect of the “Reconciliation Model of Peacemaking.” Dr. Newberger's expertise is in promoting harmonious interpersonal relationships. After analyzing your situation as a couple, he will work with you to develop a path forward to a happier, less conflicted, and more loving marriage. Click here to view an outline of his process.